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Friday, March 30, 2007
Mindspace 3/30/07
Friday Fandango
(Picture Approved for Posting by Caun)
Awww Sooky Sooky Nah! Pamalicious don broke out her sassiness cause today good people is Friday and the last day before I officially am ON VACATION!!
My top priority at this moment is getting the hell away from this pollen! DAYUM! Caun has washed the truck every day (he's such a good man) to try to help a sista. I don't even have allergies like that, but when it's like three inches thick on everything - you will be affected. I came outside yesterday after work and inhaled and a clunk just got stuck in my throat. I had to damn near rip my contacts out and my throat is just sore! Take me away!
Admist all the choking, I did complete packing and in true Men are from Mars Women are from Venus mode..
CAUN's Luggage for a 8 day trip.
Stormeka's Luggage for the same trip, lol
Amazing! Mini-me is off on a 7am flight and we hit the road to New Orleans shortly thereafter. Boarding the Norweigian Sun on Sunday.
The hair is looking hellaciously cute:
Got me the Vacation Reading Material:
And I gots me a bit of color pre-trip so it's all good. I intend to be in the bed no later than 9:30 this evening since we got to get up at the crack of dawn to see Mini-me off.
So I want everyone to enjoy their weekend and upcoming week. If this represents Spring Break for you - Definately get out and do something! If not hold down the fort. Unlike at the wedding, the internet will not be a part of this trip. So this is my 'official' last entry until Sunday, April 8th.
Ya'll keep it gangsta!!!
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Mindspace 3/29/07
Thursday Throwback
Originally Blogged 3/06
14 going on 40
Blog Musical Mood: Dreamin - Vanessa Williams
What it be people?! I saw a piece of that movie 13 Going On 30 and thought I would do a play on that - by posting some actual diary entries from when I was....14. Of course I have all my journals from 14 to present ( now isn't that gonna be off the chain at my demise?). So let's look into the world of Pamalicious when she was 14 (In no particular order) - believe you me the psychosis started EARLY!!
March 16, 1981
Dear Diary,
I had a wonderful time. I went to the movies with T. We had a great time. When we got home he kissed me about twenty times. It was soo romantic. I guess I better go!
March 21, 1981
Dear Diary,
On I am so sad! at the last minute my mother changed her mind of all the things. I guess I"ll call T. and tell him I can't go. I know he will be upset.
March 22, 1981
Dear Diary,
Boy am I mad. I called T. and he had just talked to Z. and I told him and he said "well I'll bring you something back". I am so mad at my mother. She gets on my last nerve. She's always ruining my plans. I don't know why she doesn't trust me. If I wanted to do something, I would have been done soemthing.
March 27, 1981
Dear Diary,
Today T and I got into an argument and I slapped him. I coudl tell he was mad, because he didn't say anything to me the rest of the evening. We have not kissed each other in 10 days and I guess we won't now - since I slapped him.
March 28, 1981
Dear Diary,
I know why we aren't kissing - he said I was on punishment. He said I had a month to go for the slap incident. We were talking on the phone and he goes "you gon give me a date?" and I asked, What date?" and he said "to have sex" and "you know I don't do that kinda stuff, I'm not ready for all that" He goes, "Ok Love I can wait" I'm so confused I like him alot, but I'm just 14 and I don't want to be one of 'those type of girls'. I'll just have to explain that to him and probably he'll find himself another girlfriend. Oh well.....
April 7, 1981
Dear Diary,
T. was very upset with me today, He didn't say as much as hello to me, he igged me today like I didn't exist. He never walks me home anymore. He did have on the tightest jeans today. I should tell him that he could go sterile wearing those tight jeans...hmmm then I could have sex with him because I wouldn't get pregnant Laugh Laugh Laugh.
April 19, 1981
Dear Diary,
I went to six flags today. It was fun, I had a goodtime. We left about 12:00a.m. and came back about 11:00pm. We had a good ass time.
May 1, 1981
Dear Diary,
Well it's over. T and I broke up today. It's a very long story and I actually don't feel like talking about it.
May 20, 1981
Dear Diary,
I'm on Goddamn Punishment! Ain't that a bitch?! However, I did see K.L. at school - he sure was looking good.
June 13, 1981
Dear Diary,
What a day - I need to cuss, damn, shit pussy face, bitch two time motherfucka, hoe, hussy, heifer. Oh I can't think of nothign else right now. I feel better already. My life is no way where I need it to be. Maybe I'll leave home. I got six dollars...
August 17, 1981
Dear Diary,
This was my lucky day. I went to the laundrymatt and the cutest boy ever came in. I liked to died, then I went to the Omni and saw 50 to 60 boys! Not one of them ugly! DAMN!
September 8, 1981
Dear Diary,
I haven't written in awhile. Well I'm in love again. His name is K.L. and you should see him. He's tops, dark, tall and very very very ditto thirty times cute or should I say handsome. He might be my future husband.
October 4, 1981
Dear Diary,
I got me some nice Gloria Vanderbilts friday. I will wear them Monday. I asked my mom about going to the homecoming dance and she talking about chaperones and shit. I won't go. I don't want my mom there!
K.L. and I cut 1st and 3rd period together and hung out. I had so much fun, he came to my locker with me and then we just hung out where the cutters hang.
December 27, 1981
Dear Dairy,
Oh wow I met today the finest boy I've ever seen. I mean it, I told him he was fine, couldn't help it. He's a 10,000 in my book. Fine beyond comparision. He's a transfer. I saw him in the hall and he saw me too. He walked up beside me and his hand brushed my thigh and I thought I had an orgasm. We stood at the lockers talking and when he left he said so sexy "Bye Pam" Whew!
January 3, 1982
Dear Diary,
today I went to see Switch and The Barkays at the skating rink. I had a ball. There were so many fine boys it was pitiful. Tomorrow I'm spending the night over P. house and that should be fun. We've changed our names and adopted celebrity names. Mine is Walanda and Her's is Monique.
So people - do you see a reoccuring theme?! Good Grief! I'll see about posting some more entries from other periods of my life - I've had fun reaching back.
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
Mental Mindspace 3/28/07
The Evolution of Sanjaya
Ok, I just needed to go somewhere else in my head for a moment dayum!
Alrighty - I got home and immediately went to my taping of American Idol. Imagine my surprise and...delight at the manchild that is Sanjaya, lol. At first I thought this was like six levels of hot mess,but as time has worn on, I have gotten aboard the express train that is known as Sanjaya.
I mean he's trumped William Hung AND he's brought back so many fond memories of El Debarge (let me clarify that - El Debarge can SANG, however his whole persona has been jacked by this boy here).
Let's be honest, we have seen either on TV or courtesy of You Tube PROFESSIONAL singers with songs out on the charts who sound this bad if not worse and I gotta applaud ole boy for seemingly taking the bull by the horns and enjoying his time on television.
American Idol is not going to suffer from this one bit, seeing as one of the very judges got over with a less than stellar voice they damn selves. Who are we kidding? If the industry itself was full of Jeffrey Osbornes, Al Greene's and Sam Cooke's then this would be a travestry - but it ain't.
Everybody, including him and his momma know he is not going to win and I give him about two more weeks, but a couple of things is starting to happen: (1) It has shook the contestants who are taking this seriously and they now fucking up and (2) He is growing and evolving. If he comes away with the ability to hold a solid note for his College Theatre Musical then HOORAY FOR SANJAYA! He getting tons of young gals falling at his feet, he getting press and he gets to be on TV - SHIT ain't THAT The American Dream?!
So Sing on Sanjaya and milk it for what it's worth! I am praying daily that they actually bring El on and they do a duet - Lawd I would fall cold out!!!
Mindspace 3/28/07
100
Hey people! The sun is still shining! Week is busy, Life is good - I can't complain. Breaking in some shoes for the trip today - don't want any blisters. Went to toast my girl Mary's B'day last evening for a little while. Club Applebee's (those in Atlanta guess where that is located) was off tha chain! My people! My people! Try the Apple Sangria - a little more wine and it would be to die for. Mind just a whirling what next? what next? How bout a Cinco de Mayo party (it's on Saturday this year). I'll call it "I've Got Five On It"!! Yeaaaa! Backflips and other acrobatics have caused a cease and desist until we get on vacation - keep taking my mind off what I need to do! School work while sitting in the braid chair tonite - time is a ticking and I actually screamed in the mirror this morning because I'm so excited!
Was going through my files and found this - the ole 100 Things about Me.....
100 Things About Me*
- My middle name is Darlena (had it legally dropped)
- I type about 85 wpm on a good day
- I enjoy a nice bowl of frosted flakes w/ice cold milk
- I ‘eat’ w/a spoon rather than drink chocolate milk
- I use old T-shirts as hankerchiefs, Kleenex irritates my nose
- I have every journal I’ve ever kept since I was 13 yrs old
- I have four volumes of my life with Michael Jackson
- I enjoy watching & reading porn
- I relax under my daughters baby blanket
- I grew up w/a polygamous Father
- I was a prom night conception
- I still will play with my daughters dolls when she’s asleep
- I really wish I would have went to Spelman and pledged Delta
- My favorite Author is Beverly Jenkins
- I have stolen money before in my lifetime
- I have never had sex in a car before
- I’ve only been in love once in my life & not with my late husband
- I lived in Central America for a year as a child
- I freeze bubble gum and chew it later
- I wanted to be Isis when I was nine
- My favorite food in the whole world is chicken
- I’ve never ever tasted a piece of pork
- I don’t know how to play spades, bid widst,solitaire
- I still like kickball
- The only white men I find remotely attractive is Brad Pitt & Sean Connery
- I wish I had Beyonce’s Body
- I spoke with Janet Jackson on the phone when my mom worked for her
- I let loose to Miami Bass Music
- In my alter ego life I’m a stripper
- I want to publish an all male nude magazine for women
- I subscribe to over 8 magazines and counting
- One of my bad habits is chewing rubber bands
- I am fascinated with gay culture
- I like men more than women
- I can’t fight
- I can be stingy sometimes
- I don’t cry very easily
- I don’t like a lot of sweets
- I curse like a sailor sometimes
- I don’t think I can get pregnant again
- My favorite color is anything earth tones
- I wear too much brown and black
- I am frightened of snakes, spiders and snails
- I cried the first time I went to Disney World because it was just like the commercial
- I was a virgin throughout High School
- I wanted to be a housewife
- I don’t like shopping
- I always miss the ‘hookup’
- I’ve never been to jail
- I have not so good credit
- I started driving when I was 28 years old
- I wish I knew how to dance professionally
- I daydream a lot
- I made up an entire different family for myself when I was little
- I played with dolls until I was 14 years old
- I wouldn’t mind being a hair dresser
- My favorite Ice Cream is Maple Walnut
- Sunday Mornings are my favorite time of the week
- I love fake big jewelry
- I used to ride shotgun on a motorcycle all the time
- The best time of my life was 15-19 years of age
- I don’t know how to run – I always fall
- I’m near sighted
- I’m left handed
- I’ve never had a broken bone
- When I was 16 I talked on the phone a whole weekend never hanging up
- I’m not to keen on people in general – I get bored with them
- I want to run naked in the rain
- I’d love to get an RV and just live in it wherever I wanted to
- I HATE working
- I still giggle and blush
- I can’t swim
- I haven’t been on an adult vacation in over 8 years
- I’ve never been out to the west coast
- I enjoy taking nice road trips
- Gone with Wind is one of my favorite movies – I’m Scarlett complete w/slaves
- My Paternal Grandfather was a Spy for Cuba
- My Mom is a famous writer
- I have two incomplete (maybe 3) manuscripts
- My girlfriend and I want our own radio show
- I’ve never cheated on a man
- Watching the Iron man Competition makes me cry
- I’m usually late
- A picture of Michael Jackson back in the day is my screen saver at home
- I faint everytime I see him (Mike) perform (even on TV)
- I’m a deep well of non-important information
- I don’t like talking religion, politics etc.
- I’ve never been on vacation by myself
- I’ve never had a one nite stand
*If it's bolded this has changed
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
Mindspace 3/27/07
Save As
Hebrew Slave ova here! DAYUM! I am in crunch time and though it gets the adreline going, it also makes me want to just shut down and go off, those who have been reading me for awhile however, know that this is me, so just let me act as if the world is coming to an end, lol lol
Yesterday I had some phishing come in through the messenger (sorry everybody) and so I took a moment and deleted, changed passwords, defragmented and cleaned out my job computer. While I was doing this - I decided to go through and delete alot of my pictures. As I was looking through, I had to laugh at the volume that I had and probably everyone else has on their computers. Things folks have sent, funny stuff you saw on the internet and damn those forwards from someone far away. So today I thought that I'd post some of my favorites found in the archives. Yea you might have seen them, but boy I tell yah! Enjoy!
Monday, March 26, 2007
Pictorial Mindspace 3/26/07
I Remember Yesterday
Ok I am NOT a fan of ole slickback here. Once Crunk labeled him this, it has stuck. I mean I like his acting, but there is just something that doesn't do it for me in the looks and style department. But Lo and Behold, I'm being transported back to my youth, because I am FEELING his Brother Sweetback. Whew Lawd! Talk about that whole classic light skinned look. Man, he needs to take the 'bring light skin back' by the reigns and ride off into the sunset. I feel like I need to paste this in my locker somewhere!
(Taken from Crunk & Disorderly)
Mindspace 3/26/07
Monday Musing
LET THE SUNSHINE IN! LET THE SUNSHINE IN! THE SUNSHINE INNNNN! Thank you God for the sun! Howdy folks! I hope that everywhere there was some sun to enjoy for you. It was in the mid to upper 80's all weekend in the HOTLANTA (finally time to bring that word out) and we were loving it! I didn't even mind the nakedness, we were all just basking and coming alive from the nourishment of the sun.
I was in a "I'm so thankful" mode all weekend. Most of it was introspective, but really, I am not the best when it comes to Religion itself and the rigors of it, but I am a believer in God and that He is the one who makes it all possible. Having said that, I was quite humbled this weekend as I looked at my life in it's totality as well as currently. I am so blessed! As we moved about, doing our thang, together and separately that I was just happy. I know that the saying is that 'you're happy' in advance, but I personally don't necessarily believe that. I think that I am now happily satisfied. I have been a somewhat happy person, but I am satisfied with my life right now and thus the happiness feels new and different. For anyone who has stress and strife and drama and pain in their lives, I send a hug your way. There is so much peace on the otherside, work hard to get there...
Friday was 'Janets' birthday and so I set out to get her a gift. She is a small woman 4'11 and wears a 5 1/2 shoe. She loves shoes but sometimes it's hard to find those little sizes. I remember that we were at a store and they had about 5 or 6 styles in her size and she got excited but purchased none. So that was my goal to get her a pair of shoes, lol Well I went over there and why were they having a clearance and they were all at dirt cheap prices!
So I bought her every style they had in her size and then the idea grew with it being close to easter and all and before you know it - THIS was what she ended up getting.
The shoes along with some glasses, some shot glasses, a friend frame and some other little knick knacks all wrapped and presented easter basket style. She was delirious with happiness (and the six drinks she had before we got there, lol) She changed clothes to put on one of the pairs and we were off to the bar. Mannn I can't even front, I have been an honorary member of the 'married couples' club for awhile due to the fact that I mostly hang in my social life with married women but to now be a card carrying member...SWEET! It is just a nice vibe, maybe because the folks I hang with are just stellar people and we all just groove really nicely. All I can say about Janet's Birthday is that it involved alot of drinks in TUMBLERS, she wore a flashing tiara and we were all very glad that CAUN is a non-drinker, lol lol
The rest of the weekend was just about getting out in the sun. Trips downtown and to the park to do a bit of basking. Watching the kids run through the Olympic Ring Sprinklers, sitting outside the house, taking a walk through Underground and enjoying the human sites. My people! My people!
I have a busy week this week, you know how it is before you go on vacation. My top priority is wrapping up this class, so you might see me on more in the evenings this week than I have been lately.
I won't even begin to start in on the whole cruise thing, acting like I ain't neva been nowhere, lol. Ya'll can see the countdown clock at the right and deduce how insane I am right about now, lol I am worried however about folks that keep falling OFF the damn ships. I think I'll just peek over IF that, lol Operation smuggle booze is in effect as well. Anyone who has any tips - send em on. Liquor is wayy to high on the ship. Yes I went and checked the weather forecast at each port and New Orleans. I know I know, lol lol
That couple thing is kicking in again - CAUN just told me a good friend of his and his wife want us to go to Italy with them late next summer! Lawd have mercy - thank you for giving me something else to plan. Where are my lists, lol lol
Well it's taken me since 8:25 this morning to find the space to get this thing posted, so let me go.
OHHH one more thing. I have been real janky about Drippin Chocolate. I can't do any 'research' at work due to the nature of the site, so it fell by the wayside, but with spring nipping at our heels like it has been, I had to get back on IT! Sooo - We are back up and running and this week is super special to make amends with you ladies:
So come on over to DRIPPIN CHOCOLATE and enjoy!
Friday, March 23, 2007
Mindspace 3/23/07
Friday Fandango
Thought I’d start this Friday out in grand form! Thanks for reading this week! I know I have been wordy lately and I see another week of it, so hunker down cause it’s coming! This weekend is not that busy, wasn’t overdrawn at the bank, packing for the trip cause I can’t stand it anymore, changing my wall paper to a picture of the ship AND
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ‘JANET’
- Yea I saw the tape. Wasn’t overly impressed. I definitely think that this was a planned taping, yet I don’t know if they wanted it to get out. What a boring woman she is. I know sistas who are tighter and more sexy and even on the ‘private’ tip get into it. She was just laying there with the “I’m so cute you should be glad that I let you hit it look” I know that if the adventures of Pamalicious were to ever get that crunk, I would be all about the skills and not the looks. I want folks to be like DAYUM she was rocking that negro, lol lol So okay, I think that at this point she can only mess with the well endowed, because anyone else would develop a complex falling into that cave. Ray J made one eyebrow raise, but he still short and that whole crook thing never was attractive to me. Aim Straight! Always reminds me of an extender or something, lol. I guess ultimately there is a two prong thing here – (1) Brandy is hella glad the spotlight is off of her and (2) wouldn’t you want to hear that conversation warning Mama Norwood about this….
Why I love the internet! (courtesy of A HOT MESS). Sanjaya aka Strange’, in my house. Gotta love him! Visions of “Rhythm of the Night” dance in my head every time I see him. Go ahead and embrace your inner El Boy! CAUN is convinced that Stepfanie got offered a contract and threw last week. I say that some folks enjoy singing for friends, family and church but just don’t ‘feel’ it like that. That was her. They had to drag her to audition to begin with. Folks think if you have an entertainment type talent, you a fool not to pursue it, what is she also is good in Science and wants to be a Chemist. Give me a break! It ain’t nothing but sanging!- TV-one captures my attention, at least they are TRYING to have programming. This should be interesting (courtesy of Brownsista)Tamara Johnson-George, better known to the world as Taj of the r&b singing group SWV, is set to star alongside her husband Eddie George in I Married A Baller- a new reality series set to air on TV One.Viewers will get to follow her as she travels around the country to meet the demands of her busy schedule, which include performing with the recently reunited SWV, going to cosmetology school and attending functions with her husband - all while being a mom
- I finally had a chance to listen to the words of “My Songs” by Gerald Levert. It moved me. That is a nice song! I need to go preview the entire CD.
- It’s been beautiful weather here and I’ve had the top back, shades on vibe going on through the city. Well you know that requires music and I have to tell you – nothing modern even fits spring time. The music is too erratic and what not. What happened to just smooth grooves that you can vibe to that don’t take away from the moment. I immediately put on some Stevie and EWF. THAT is spring time music children.
- Rob and Amber have been eliminated already! Myrna and Smyrna came in first! Amazing Race continues to be the absolute best (outside of that family edition).
- Deal or No Deal is going to cause me to have a heart attack! That show is just too much but I love it. The day that man was on there and ended up with $10 because he was greedy cause me to start to hyperventilate. The cruise has the newlywed game, deal or no deal and something else. I intend to play some of it…
- Speaking of cruise, as usual, I jumped in feet first to a message board and had to burst a pimple last evening. Some broad come on board talking bout why is this particular cruise line so ghetto. They all went into some – conversation unbecoming of an area where you don’t know who might be there. So I had to check it. Then she comes with a definition of ‘Ghetto’ that included some outdated stuff that everyone and their momma’s knows in 2007 has nothing to do with WHO YOU THINK ABOUT WHEN SOMEONE SAYS GHETTO. Laying low – cause sometimes I can’t play well with others, lol
- The pictures were Great on ANTM this week. I knew they had to get rid of ‘peace and blessing’ can’t have any of THAT on a reality show, lol lol I still have not attached myself to anyone.
- Is it a conspiracy to only have about two radio stations available to you in office buildings. I need to start listening online but the nature of my job requires that I don’t really have on earplugs – so I’m stuck
- Teacher got to much time on her hands this class. I don’t even have the bandwidth for this kinda scrutiny – so pray for me, cause I see a very low B or C coming, but then again, I may pull it out – let me not set myself up to fail.
- I’m averaging like 2-3 new blogs a week! The blogsphere is taking over my life! But I love it! Ya’ll keep writing!
Well, I’ll end it in the fashion that it began – with some ole flagrant foul ish……
THIS JUST COMING IN FROM ALL PARTS HORRIFIC!
PROM TIME IS ON THE HORIZON!
I think I just lost 2% of my eyesight on this mess!
(courtesy of Hot Ghetto Mess)
Thursday, March 22, 2007
Unexplained Mindspace 3/23/07
Builder "Bob"
I'm not sure why CAUN must dress like a member of the Village people to cook dinner, but I give him his space. Babe the meatballs, rice and broccoli were Delish - now take that hat off, next time I want yah naked!
Mindspace 3/22/07
Thursday Throwback
Originally written February, 2006
NOTE: Since the writing of this - there has been no communication. I have a definite address etc. and sent wedding announcements etc. I had this crazy idea that maybe just maybe he would reach out for that. But no - After the wedding, I spoke to another brother and let him know that I was through. I have to just let go and let GOD.
O Brother Where Art Thou
The other day I got an email from one of my brothers. It always amazes me that he actually is able to maneuver the information highway, even if it is to send me a picture of a woman being violated by a horse (insert appropriate facial and vocal response). However, the thing I noticed more than that was on several emails, there was an address that was familiar, that of my older brother. Yep I have an older brother. One I haven't spoken to in um 7 or so years if not longer. I wonder if this was his actual email address. I had written it before to no response. I've sent mail thru traditional means to no avail. What happened you ask? Well in a nutshell - he and I were very very close coming up, he was my bonafide hero. I looked up to him and was very protective of his well being as he was mine.
A series of things began to happen that basically fucked with his psyche. I've talked before about the fact that I believe the theory that Mike J. was just sensitive and wasn't able to take what maybe another person could. I have a great amount to fortitude about some things, but apparently my brother did not. Around this time, he also met a series of women who did NOT have his best interest at heart. I spoke to him about this situation, but as we know affairs of the heart can break up the closest folks.
I remember exactly what went down. I was visiting his home. His wife at the time was point blank nasty. I was amazed (especially coming from the 'Man is King' upbringing he came from) how he was so submissive to the idea that he should work 60+ hours a week then come home where a stay at home wife has done NOTHING. The final straw was, the strips from the sanitary napkin laying exposed on the dresser. I got home and spoke to him about it and he went and told her what I said. She effectively banned me from coming to her home and speaking to him and surprisingly he went with that. As a matter of fact, it got to the point that he stopped speaking to everyone in the family and outside of his very recent communication (though VERY stilted) with his mother - we don't hear from him. Not a hello, how yah doing?, Wha I got a nieces and nephews - - nothing.
In the beginning I was very tortured about this and was very angry, then the anger turned to self because maybe I should have never said anything, then it just became I'll resolve this within myself and move on with life. Which is where I am at now. He's not even with the woman anymore - so that's a mute point. I would think, especially after all these years and after I have offered olive branch after olive branch - he would maybe make contact.
What is the kicker of all this - he has an ex girlfriend from many moons ago - that in the meantime in between time he has maintained a friendship with that spans over 20 years now. She has access to him and guards it like it's the answer to world peace or something. A couple of times important family information needed to get to him (regardless of his response) and I've had to go through her to get it to him. I no longer even ask for his information anymore. I have always found that situation the most fustrating of all. She and I are friends as well, but she's loyal to him like I've never seen folks be loyal.
So there you have it. I think about him often - what does he look like? Is he taking care of himself? Has he found any peace in his life yet? I would like to tell him about how I'm doing, have him see his niece - you know stuff like that. I don't even know his last three children at all, never even seen a picture of them (but then again neither has his own momma).
If I were to talk to him, I think I would really have to swallow deeply because yes my first inclination is to cuss him slam the fuck out. However, I won't...I just wanna say how are you my brother?
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Mindspace 3/21/07
That Thing Called Friendship
I was going to speak on something else this morning, but then I had an episode that caused me to switch gears.
I can remember when I was around 10 or so, I was sitting outside my step mothers house looking across the street. These three girls were having soo much fun and I was so afraid being the new kid on the block to cross the street. Well she sat next to me and said "If you don't go over there and introduce yourself, you will get a spanking" LOL LOL So I marched my little behind right over there and that walk began the crux for most of my childhood! You talking about friendship. Lawd have mercy! It was deep, it was real, it was valid.
We all are interesting characters and all possess certain issues that are unique to us. When it comes to female friendships, my stance is that in actuality I am not but so keen on having alot of women around me. I've never felt comfortable with the mindset of most black women when it came to certain things - so if I find someone who I can identify with then it's on. Now being 'social' I turn out to have alot of females in my presence, lol What a paradox. However, there are VERY few people that I call friends. Because of my stance - when I do have a friendship it is pivital in my life and means something to me.
At one time, I said I didn't have any 'best' friends, because I wanted everyone to have equal billing, my philosophy was that all of my 'friends' are like spokes in a wheel and they all contribute to keep me moving. I knew who to call when I needed a particular kind of answer/advice/friendship and who to call when I need some 'tough love'. In actuality I can name who I consider 'friends' on one hand and that has now morphed into my new philosophy. My friends are like my hand and as my fingers have different lenghts so do the scope of our friendship. Therefore based on my longest finger, I do have a best friend.
Now to my deficit, I am crunk most of the time, an attention whore and like to be the leader of the friendships, lol As well as I am reactionary and if you catch me on the wrong day - I will cancel.
Not to long ago, I abruptly cut a 'friend' off because she just proved to not be loyal. Erased and blocked emails and all kinds of stuff. Do NOT ever contact me again for any reason. At the same time - there was a brewing with another friend that was coming across as 'hate' and though this is probably flawed with my 'in your face' type manner; if I see that you are not able to handle my positivity and it begins to manifest itself in (as perceived by me) a negative sense - then I gots to do something about it. Well this morning it bubbled over and stained my nice beige dress pants so I am officially downgrading that to someone I used to know. Here was a female that was on all my information as who to contact in case of emergency. I have already changed all of that to reflect my husband, but still.....and sometimes it's just one line with me.
Conversation kinda stilted she tells me about her family and then asks about mine. I tell her about mine. Spring break coming up conversation on that, then discussion about the kids, say good news about SAT and mines which is followed by: "That's cool for when we were back in school, but isn't the highest like 2400 now" (WTF?!) We move on, then more plans about families and spring break plans their vacation and then my vacation and then "Well you have fun on your little vacation" (WTF?!). Dammit it don got on my pants!
So another one bites the dust. Yea I know I can be 'alot', Yea I know the 'tone' of my voice and the excitement and the way I am ALWAYS talking can sometimes overshadow what you got going on - but my position on that is jump in where you fit in. If you let me take the reigns I am comfortable but to be more comfortable - you get in there and bat it back and forth with me. However, I enjoy a certain personality around me to enter the inner sanctum of friendship with me and if it becomes convuluted then you get demoted, that's just how it is with me.
I am a magnet for folks, yet I keep running farther and farther away so you won't get caught up in my magnetism, lol lol
I sometimes wonder will I miss the development of new friendships with men. Blackmen are fascinating creatures and I have always been drawn to their spirit. I can have a friendship with a man and even if the reality is that on the man's part it started out as an attempt to get the licious - I can deftly swing us in another direction, he don't even know what happened and we can continue on, LOL. I won't be fostering any new relationships with men due to the fact that I am married and respect my husband. I have a few core 'online' friends that mean the world to me and they will continue to be my friend. they ain't going nowhere, lol
So I guess I have rambled along this morning about this because ultimately this is a sad day for me - downgrading a person I've known for so long and have been through some major things in my life with including the murder of my first husband. However, life goes on.
The Five Fingers of death I have now - do it for me. My 'longest finger' is my GURL and I hold her in the upmost and highest respect in my life and in my heart. I love her - she's the younger sister I have never had (despite having 4 younger sisters) - yet she is my equal. I purposely nuture and take care of this relationship because it means alot to me. All of my 'fingers' are important to me - however, I have found that where I am in my life and the age etc. that I do well with the five and actually am not auditioning for anymore friends at this time. I have a full life, full of all kinds of people in all facets of their lives and they all have a place in mine - for someone who has been accused of being a loner - I have PEOPLE!! LOL LOL
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
Mindspace 3/20/07
Dream A Little Dream
It is the first day of spring - It will be about 73 degrees today - It is my two month Anniversary - Most of the office is out of town - TODAY IS A GOOD DAY!!!
Spring is one of my favorite times of year and because of this, I tend to go into daydreaming mode more than usual. My mind is just a flutter. Most of it is surrounding the cruise and how much fun we are going to have, some on the summer in general and BBQ's, going out with friends and chillin and then some on those things that you just kinda dream about.
This morning the dream of choice was:
WINNING THE LOTTERY!
Some of the best late night conversations between CAUN and some of the best to myself convo's have revolved around that elusive lottery drawing. We had to of course adjust our plans to accommodate each other, but it oh so much fun spelling it all out.I laugh because the last conversation we had was about whether or not you can have bad credit and be rich and we decided that you could. If you are paying your bills all janky etc. you can still have a bad credit report, being overextended facilitates this as well - so we still would be on the freaking cutting edge, because money management is not one of our strong points - but common sense is, so we would definately be reaching out to a financial planner.
There also must be 'levels of wealth' plans. Cause quite frankly anything under 500K, we aren't really sharing the wealth outside of our parents. We will do some treating here and there, but the wayward cousin who we haven't spoken to in years, can go on with thier lives, LOL
Once we hit the big money however, things change. Of course ANY amount of money come up will begin with getting 'the man' off of our back for our past indecretions, making room for the new ones! Man oh man. I have heard that paying off everything at once is not a good idea, but we will be rollin it out for a deal to. I'm still just not giving up what they say they want. Hell, I'll still have bad credit, due to the payoff, yet I will have the fundage to make them 'forget' when it came to acquiring the new credit necessary.
Of course we will look inward first. First up a financial planner, someone who could show us how to make money off of the money we have. Add on an Accountant - these people would help us clear up our past and align us sanely for the future.
The home that we want would come first complete with the furniture fitting for said home. Nothing worse than running out and getting a $300K plus home and bringing home room to go outlet stuff or leaving it empty. Next would be the automobiles that we want. We would keep DQ nothing wrong with her, just add me a luxury sedan and CAUN what he wanted. Next would be setting up the necessary funds to make sure our children went to college comfortably. Then the drama would start.
Amounts of money won mean so much in relation to who you bout to break off. Automatic breakoff's would be our parents (this includes my step mom), Next up would be our best friends (Yea they are next), then the rest depending on how much loot we acquire.
Let's for the sake of argument go into the millions. That would mean automatic "Gailizing" of Janet. I could NOT enjoy having money if she were not able to hang with me. I don't see it happening. CAUN would be "Stedmaning" his brother. This would include paying off their bills, plopping them in homes and cars suitable for our new lifestyle and then large cash sums of money to manipulate in the way they want to on top of that - just rolling wit us.
Now once you get past this, my stuff gets shaky, ya'll know I have 'family barriers' which is what I have begun calling them, cause they are usually from me outward and I can admit that (but that's another post). I would want to take care of my nieces and nephews but beyond that. I would spend time thinking about what to do for my siblings. I said a long time ago and I still hold to it that if I were to win something like 35 million etc. I would require a 500 word essay as to exactly your reasonings on why a portion of my winnings should end up in your life. I think it would be fun, lol lol
CAUN is a softie, so I know I'll be having to really be on him about this. Unless we win 100 million, we are going to be beneficient but we are not the money train for our families.
Let's move up into huge numbers like the one mentioned above. Then we would just get ignorant, lol lol I know that we both agree that we want multiple dwellings. We want our home base to be here, but we also want to buy something in NY and CA and we then want to purchase something in the Islands that will be open to everyone. Like some property with a main house and a couple of bungalows. We also said that a plane is a must that will be available for everyone as well. Need to go somewhere - let us know, lol I would also (if we get into the say 80 million dollar range) just bless some folks. For instance, the girls I hang with - I would pay off their homes and cars. CAUN would make some of his folks solvent as well.
One of my major dreams would be to do an 'Oprah's Maya Angelou' type situation and just invite say 25 of our closest friends on some major vacation all expenses paid, just show up. We got you covered from a clothes stipend and everything. That is just sooo fly!
We don't necessarily agree on the whole work thing however, lol I see myself
He sees a two week notice. We both do agree no quitting work for anything less than a two million.
Charity wise. I would like to totally fix up and re do the nursery Mini-me has been at since she was 5 years old (and she's 13 now) that woman has helped me raise my baby and I would like to just do that. Also I would like to become involved with different things around town. I also would like to fund some Charter or Private schools for young black boys and girls here in Atlanta.
Let's keep it real. It's a whole look that goes along with this whole money deal. I hear folks saying they wouldn't stop shopping where they were shopping before the WIN. NEGROES PLEASE! I'm moving the hell up! It's Target all the way for me, lol lol lol On the real, I would probably only move forward with things in my life that are sentimenal in value otherwise it will stay right where it is, lol lol You can also expect me to get some 'work done'. I might even go on the downlow for a minute while I get some stuff sucked and tucked and then hit the gym and get me a cook. It would definately be my time to finally get it off, lol lol Can you say LACE FRONT for days!!!!!!?!!!!! Whew Lawd! I am over her almost trembling thinking about the shopping 'Janet' and I would partake of. Especially when we get us a good nanny to watch our kids.
The stress free lifestyle is what I would look most forward to. The traveling and exposing my children to things - we could just away like every weekend and still maintain our connections and schools etc. etc.
This post must end now because I am developing a headache expanding my mind to the impossible, lol This is oh so timely because last night 'The Calloways' graced the screen via Vh-1 - their one hit wonder? "I WANNA BE RICH?"
Tootles!
Monday, March 19, 2007
Mindspace 3/19/07
Monday Musings
Tyrese got sick and cancelled the show! They had the nerve to say come on down and sign a get well card for him. Not! So now I'm on the lookout...again. At least they have a website now - so hopefully it will be updated. At least that put $100 back in my pocket - yea, it was going to cost $100 to go see him.
Spring is in the air! I can feel it, even in the crispness of the current weather. Riding into my subdivision the trees are coming alive, and it's just pretty. I made a decision to have fresh flowers on the table all summer. They bring so much life to your home. Here is the bouquet CAUN got for me for the Brunch. So colorful!
My weekend was all over the place as evidenced by the fact that I actually blogged all weekend. All in all it was a good one. I actually had time to put up some EBAY items to sale, to replenish my spending money in Paypal, lol I buckled down and let those dolls get away from me. Insert that crying face here - but there will be others. Gotta get this trip out the way.
CAUN broke out the lawnmower and gave our grass it's first cut of the spring. To make it exciting for him - everytime he walked by either the bedroom or the patio glass - I flashed him! LOL LOL The Girls all up against the glass, lol. He was hollaring! Ahhh Newlywed life, hope it never ends.
CRUISE UPDATE: Found a good site all about cruises and got some invaluable information. Some that has led me to change our excursions all together. We are going to be with the people instead. Save some money on the high priced ship sponsored ones and take these people's advice (some just got back this past sunday and gave blow by blow reviews) and go that route. We were even able to see the menu's for the week and though they change - they had OXTAIL SOUP! Lawd I am about to pass out!!! I guess the only thing I am trying to work out is my liquor consumption. Drinks are high on the boat! I am limiting myself to three a day at around $7-8/drink! I guess I won't be getting as drunk as I wanted. Now I could do a bar set up and just have the absolut waiting in my room, but a bottle is $40. I am still thinking about this one and just carrying me around a covered mug on the ship with my own libations, lol We will be bringing water and soda, so CAUN is covered. If I choose to do the bar set up - I will bring my own cranberry juice as well. It's funny what folks were saying they packed from silver tape to power strips (we are gonna bring one of those, there is only one outlet in the room and we got cameras and what not to charge, lol). We also were able to locate our room on the ship and we have a nice big picture window! They said that we might get an upgrade, we got a pretty good cabin now as far as I'm concerned, so that would be hella cool. I can't believe that now I can say Next Saturday, we will be on our way to New Orleans!
Well this week should be interesting. I actually have alot on my mind, which means you will be seeing it during the course of the week - so stay tuned!
Sunday, March 18, 2007
Mindspace 3/18/07
Brunch
Yesterday I had a mother/daughter brunch with a friend of mines. It went fabulously and we really enjoyed ourselves.
The menu was Tomatoes stuffed with my 'legendary' Curry Chicken Salad on a bed of greens with several tastes for the pallet. To drink we had Sparkling Cranberry/Apple Cider with fruit and for dessert (not pictured) we had homemade poundcake (with Splenda).
Enjoy!
Saturday, March 17, 2007
Mindspace 3/17/07
Internal Clock Woes
As we approach the 9 o'clock hour, I will have been up three hours already! Why? Because my internal clock has been set to 'work'. This has been something I have fought forever, which is why I never used alarm clocks. It was my last bit of 'freedom' from the man, lol Well enters CAUN and his "I gots to get to work on time" ass. Bling Bling Bling - clocks going off all up in this piece. So now I'm up and it never cuts off. I have no 'weekend' schedule.
So I've (1) baked a pound cake for brunch today, (2)looked up hotel possibilities for our Florida Family Trip and found one (3) Wrote the 'promoters' of Mini-me's Summer 2007 world tour with posssibilites and (4) did some reading on others blogs. LOL
After speaking with CAUN and discovering that robbery was NOT a part of our financial plan and the fact that unlike me everyone doesn't get 35 vacation days a year, we are going to postpone the triumphant return to Vegas. I'm cool with that - my girls weekend to Savannah is still on and poppin. This way we will be able to not be janky with our first family trip to Orlando.
I am going to need an EBAY intervention! Just on happenstance I decided to see what other kinds of things Ebay has in that big virtual flea market and so I put in two words that are going to be my downfall: MICHAEL JACKSON I needs HELP! I am watching like a dozen things and believe you me this right here is coming HOME TO MOMMA!! I've already dusted a spot, lol
(sorry need to kick this snoring man to roll ova DAYUM!)
Um, can someone drop kick...WINTER. I had to laugh yesterday as I drove by looking at the youngsters shiver at the bus stop in their "ooo I wish my momma would take a look at what I wear out the house so I won't be out here in March in a swim suit" outfits.
Speaking of young people, the advent of this technological society is that you have to have a conversation with your children about their responsiblity in it and their respect for it. Mini-me is learning this the hard way. Apparently as a "joke" she took a video of two boys and added commentary that suggested they were gay. Well word got around and Mini-me got a taste of the dreaded popularity and suddenly she's in the office because one of the boys has decided that he is offended, which is his right. The school looked at and burned the video off of her phone and apparently the Father wants to talk to mini-me. Well first off, I'm all up at the school on Monday because why wasn't I notified of any of this. There will be no meeting anywhere without me and CAUN being involved. Second, I could drop kick her little ass.
Soo we had to have a stern talk with her about her responsibility in the technology world be it video, camera, email or IM. As well as explain to her slander and how no matter how she looks at it and how 'harmless' this might be in her eyes and even in the boys eyes - it is the job of the parents to look beyond their short sighted vision and that based on the (right or wrong) stigma of homosexuality in the black community, this boy and his family have taken offense to this and that is their right. Be it the day she made the video or six month down the road.
It was a good lesson in when you do something, you are responsible for it and if you let it out of your immediate person, you have no control over what direction it will go in -- therefore once you showed it to the first person, it took on a life of it's own and now it's boomeranging to hit you in the ass.
She will be writing a one page 'apology' to this boy and his family and I'll drop through the school to make sure this is going to blow over.......
Well now that I am two hours or so away from my brunch - let me get on up and get dressed and what not.
Countdown to Tyrese in full effect - I wonder if a swimsuit and boots are appropriate?
Friday, March 16, 2007
Green Mindspace 3/16/07
Corn Beef and Cabbage Anyone?
I was watching one of the morning shows at the dentist this morning and these little kids were just a riverdancing away. Then I watched as the sista from "Law and Order SVU" got her nails painted green before coming out for her interview. As I sat there I got to thinking that I am such a person without a country. What I mean by that is that African Americans are just default of any culture! African is our Heritage in my opinion but it is not our culture - as evidenced by we don't celebrate anything that they really have going on either. I can ask 6 folks right now and they couldn't name 6 African specific pieces of culture or holidays or birth rights or anything. Technically the only 'culture' we can call our own is (GASP) the Hip Hop Culture! The only holiday we have is...Kwanzaa - which is why whether you believe in it or not - it is very valid and needs to be here. Oh and we have an 'anthem' that none of us can half way remember.."Lift Every Voice and Sing"
Where's my flag? Where is my colors? Hell the Gay community got a flag! What exactly relevant to the African American dispora do I have? Africans don't want us, Island people ain't hardly trying to claim us, We are for the most part Chameleon Bastards up in this piece. We morph into everything and this weekend we will become IRISH?! Lawd Have Mercy!
I think this is the way in which our leaders did us the most injustice. From slavery forth, we have not carved out anything significant for ourselves to pass on to our children but notions of a land most of us will never see, Heck we are more aligned with the Korean, lol lol
I get jealous when I see costumes, parades, foods, songs etc. etc. of other cultures. DAMN YOU MASTER (fill in the blank)!
What the fuck!? My national bird is the CHICKEN! My dance revolves around a stripper pole, my costume is either booty shorts or a t-shirt 6 sizes too big, my official song is "I need a Bad Bitch"! My official language is slang? My boys 'manhood' ceremony is JAIL! My Baby's familial bond is found out on MAURY!
Am I American? By default yes, and the argument can be made that this right here is MINE - it was built by my people on their hands and knees, but I want something like everybody else.......I want more than Black History Month, if there was ever anything I want to be assimiliated on, that would be the excitement around my people. I just think about how today most folks just don't 'see' it - they don't want to talk about it and they certainly don't want to let it be known that they have feelings about it - afterall it's 2007 and we equal and we got shit and we can go anywhere and do anything and we do have culture....yea right. We have INVENTORS, CIVIL RIGHTS LEADERS, POST SLAVERY MILES STONES, FAMOUS PEOPLE, ATHLETES, ENTERTAINERS, FIRSTS....
Well let me go put my cornbeef and cabbage on.....I do love me some corn beef.
Fandango Mindspace 3/16/07
Friday Fandango
LADYNAY brought this to my attention!
1. In three words, explain what ended your last relationship?
Couldn't take rejection
2. When was the last time you shaved your legs?
Yesterday
3. What were you doing this morning at 8am?
it's not even 7:30 as of yet, but at 8am I will be puttering around trying to get dressed
4. What were you doing 15 minutes ago?
Writing my first blog of the day
5. Are you any good at math?
I barely get through addition and subtraction as evident by my bank book.
6. Last night?
Last Night when I made love to you - I saw the sun, the moon, the heaven and the angels, last night when I made sweet love to youuuuu. What happen to the guys who sung that song?
7. Do you have any famous ancestors?
Well on my Fathers side - he traced back to Ethopia and we have some land there, on my mom's side outside of her being Shahrazad Ali, my Grandpops was a spy for Cuba, lol
8. Have you ever burped in front of the opposite sex?
Yeserday
9. Do you know the words to the song on your blog?
My blog is not musically enhanced.
10. Last thing you received in the mail?
Snail - Replacement credit card in married name, Sports Illustrated.
Email - Blogger comments, junk, Notification of Ebay win etc.
11. How many different beverages have you drank today?
None as of yet
12. What's one thing you wish to change about yourself?
My stomach
13. What do you wish for?
Financial Solvency.
14. Do you draw your name in the sand when you go to the beach?
Nah but I"m on this Lovethang now so probably on the cruise we will.
15. What's the most painful dental procedure you've had?
Wisdom Teeth pulled out by Dental Students!
16. What is outside of your back door?
Patio and grass
17. Any plans for Friday night?
Doing prep work for lunch tomorrow, season premiere of "Intervention"
18. Do you like the ocean?
LOVE IT
19. Have you ever received one of those big tins of 3 different popcorn?
Lawd Yes
20. Have you ever been to a planetarium?
Used to go, you get the best sleep up in there.
21. Natural childbirth or epidural?
Why wasn't CRACK part of this question? C-section and drugs. LOVED IT!
22. Something you are excited about
Overall my entire life, specifically my honeymoon
23. What is your favorite flavor of JELLO?
Strawberry and Cranberry
24. Are any of your great-grandparents still alive?
I have no Grand anythings left living
25. Describe your keychain:
I have a NY license plate with my name and I have a Flamingo one with a little mirror and our wedding picture. I have my car key, CAUN's car key and the two house keys.
26. Do you like anyone in your blog roll?
They cool peeps
27. When was the last time you spoke in front of a large group?
I actually haven't in awhile.
28. What is your winter coat like?
The brown bear that hubby bought me from overstock.com
29. How often do you lay with your significant other and just cuddle, no sex?
Sometimes from the time we get home from work, then we get up shower and cuddle till we fall asleep. NOTHING gets done and poor mini-me is just ass out, lol
30. Can you tie a cherry stem in a knot with your tongue?
I'm just too flicked for that kinda stuff, but don't think that indicates my 'skills', cause it don't!
KNOW THE HISTORY FOLKS! (thanks Rosalind)
WHO IS JACK SCHITT?
For some time many of us have wondered just who is Jack Schitt? We find ourselves at a loss when someone says, 'You don't know Jack Schitt!'
Well, thanks to my genealogy efforts, you can now respond in an intellectual way.
Jack Schitt is the only son of Awe Schitt. Awe Schitt, the fertilizer magnate, married O. Schitt, the owner of Needeep N. Schitt, Inc. They had one son, Jack.
In turn, Jack Schitt married Noe Schitt. The deeply religious couple produced six children: Holie Schitt, Giva Schitt, Fulla Schitt, Bull
Schitt, and the twins Deep Schitt and Dip Schitt.
Against her parents' objections, Deep Schitt married Dumb Schitt, a high school dropout. After being married 15 years, Jack and Noe Schitt divorced. Noe Schitt later married Ted Sherlock, and because her kids were living with them, she wanted to keep her previous name. She was then known as Noe Schitt Sherlock.
Meanwhile, Dip Schitt married Loda Schitt, and they produced a son with a rather nervous disposition named Chicken Schitt. Two of the other six children, Fulla Schitt and Giva Schitt, were inseparable throughout childhood and subsequently married the Happens brothers in a dual ceremony. The wedding announcement in the newspaper announced the Schitt-Happens nuptials. The Schitt-Happens children were Dawg, Byrd, and Horse.
Bull Schitt, the prodigal son, left home to tour the world. He recently returned from Italy wi th his new Italian bride, Pisa Schitt.
Now when someone says, 'You don't know Jack Schitt,' you can correct them.
Sincerely,
Crock O. Schitt
HAVE A GOOD WEEKEND!
Mindspace 3/16/07
Morning Breath
Well something is screwy up in the mouth region so I'll be hitting them up at 9am when they open. It allows me to stay in bed for a third day this week - getting spoiled. Another contact busted, let her know she is running out of opportunities to wear them - sometimes you just aren't ready, on tap for this weekend: (1) girlfriend and her daughter coming over to visit. I'll be making a cute lunch, (2) maybeeeee "Promonition" dang that looks good and (3) God assist me please - Tyrese!
Woke up with some randomness this A.M.
- Exactly why is Strange' (Sanjay) still on American Idol? I believe when he looks in the screen, he shoots a ray and we are made into robots who just dial the phone.
- How come we as a people like to dream fantastically and not live in the here and now? Example: Barake. Love him, but we know good and damn well he's not about to be President of the US of A. Yet we will pour resources and money (mysterious money we don't seem to have for the everyday pight of negroes when asked) into this "Dream" - hmmm King really worked.
- Is part of living in hell the pursuit of it?
- How do you tell someone that it's okay to just be dysfunctional. You don't have to prove you are not because in reality - you are showing that you are and wasting folks time in the process.
- Why am I getting the family to sit down and watch Roots when it hits the TV in April?
- why am I eagerly anticipating the new shows coming to TV one?
- Why was rip the runway the first time I've watched BET in months
- Was I the only one who felt that when the plus size fashion show came on the camera took a vacation from showing the fashion? And where were the swimsuits?!
- Watching that - I just didn't feel....plus size, though I obviously am, wonder where my mind blockage is?
- Why did CAUN take a shit, take the trash to the curb and bust a nut and loose his weight?! MENNNNNNN! Hate that about them!
- Spring = rabbits, where are my carrots I need the energy
- How do I stop answering work emails late at night - I'm really not trying to be that impressive
- My budget is almost a full time job - is yours?
- Don't you hate that youtube will cancel something that usually is the good stuff, like the clip from "South Park"?
- I think that as you do in school when you are asked whether you are pursuing Academics or Vocational Training, you need to be made to identify your relationship goals. Once at 18 and then at 21 and finally at 25. Then folks can really stop wasting folks time. By 25, you pretty much know if you are going to want to settle down or if you just like variety. Then everyone can mingle and pursue their true goals.
- WHY DID I LOSET HIS ENTIRE ENTRY AND NOW AM NOT REALLY AWAKE ENOUGH TO REMEMBER THE REST!?
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Mindspace 3/15/07
Stuff and a Bit Mo Stuff
Hmmm - I am suppose to be doing my homework, but I felt some blogging coming on and so here I am. Didn't have a chance today because I was at the Dentist again.
I have to say that it feels so much better in my freaking MOUTH. The diabetes manifests itself in my pie hole and so taking care of that actually makes my sugars better. Now I've developed another problem that I have to go get taken care of first thing in the morning and then hopefully I'll be seeing them six months from now.
Today I ran into a classic, lol the "I'm married to the boss so I can come in and play office when I please" Lawd have mercy! This sistas was OFF THA CHAIN!! She made my head hurt and I ended up having to 'show ethnicity' in the spot. So she comes bounding in and just started ragging on the front desk people. I mean she was (and actually I rarely call other sisters this) but she was being a bitch. She was speaking to them as if they didn't have a clue. How did I figure out who she was? Because she mentioned it several times. {rollin eyes}.
Well the office is in a heavy ethopian area therefore muslim community. Well, there were I know 6 (insert last name here) in the office, lol So when they called it - we were like Um which ones, lol lol lol
Well in spite of the fact I had it spelled out 100 times on the forms, they misspelled my name on the paperwork and I asked for it to be corrected. She goes "that is your name right?" I respond "yes" so then she says "Well we have to put the name exactly as it is on the medicade and according to them it's blah blah blah" WTF?! I had noticed that she talked to them bad from the get go. I stepped back and looked this broad dead in her eye "Excuse me, but I believe that you've mistaken me for someone else (1) I don't have medicade and (2) I'm from right here in Decatur, so you will NOT speak to me as if I am illiterate - now again the spelling of my name Pamela XXX is" and then she looks and realizes that she has the chart!!!! So then she crosses out the two wrong letters and writes over. I then go (just to bust her balls cause she had em swingin) "I would like one of the very nice and efficient front desk personnel to make me a new folder, so there won't be any confusion" LOL LOL THEN she gets on the phone and tells 'somebody' that there is no way that her husband can join them because he plays Tennis on Sunday and Golfs and probably won't have time for such an unimportant event. I can imagine who that was and how they were gritting their teeth. Some folks need to STOP TRIPPING. However, I actually liked the office - so I will return.
Here is Mini-me in the contacts. She tore another one and I've let her know she has two more, if these don't make it till next Saturday then she won't be getting contacts, she's not ready.
I want to spend a minute on the cruise. We are sooooooo excited. Last evening we went and mapped out our shore excursions. Here is a picture of our ship:
Here is a sample of the cabin
Here are our ports of call: New Orleans, At Sea, Costa Maya, Santo Tomas de Castilla, Belize City, Cozumel, At Sea, New Orleans.
Here is what we choose for each stop:
COSTA MAYA
Highlights Of Costa Maya & Beach Break
Stop in downtown Costa Maya for an hour of free time and shopping. You'll journey through the jungle trails and along the Caribbean shore. Admire the endless stretches of white sand and beautiful blue-green waters. You'll have approximately one hour stay to enjoy the beach. You can lie in the sun, go for a swim, play a game of volleyball, or enjoy one of the complimentary ocean kayaks. Note: Wear your bathing suit and bring a towel.
SANTO TOMAS DE CASTILLA
Trolley City Tour
Ride a unique trolley for a 50-minute ride through the streets of Puerto Barrios. Your guide provides a narration on the history and folklore. Some of the attractions along the way are the colorful local graveyard and the Hotel Del Norte - a local tradition of over 100 years. Note: Participants must be at least 18 years of age to consume alcohol. A maximum of three cold alcoholic drinks (usually beer) or soft drinks per person are included.
BELIZE
Altun Ha Mayan Ruins & Belize City Tour
This fascinating tour focuses on the contrast between the ancient Mayan city of Altun Ha and modern day Belize City, highlighting 1,000 years of development within this former British Colony. Altun Ha (Mayan for "Rock Stone Water") thrived as a trading post to the Mayan world during the Classic and Post Classic periods. The site was made world-famous by Dr. David Pendergast of the Royal Ontario Museum upon his discovery of the world's largest carved Jade Head, depicting the sun god Kinich Ahau.
COZUMEL
Eco Jeep(R) & Snorkel Adventure
Drive your Jeep Wrangler(R) to Punta Sur and visit the Punta Celarain Lighthouse, Navigation Museum and Caracol Mayan Ruin before heading to the beach. Due to the bay's protection, it is safe from sea currents and its sandy and shallow waters make it an ideal place for snorkeling. Enjoy beach games, water sports or simply relax.
Man oh man I am sooo ready for this vacation!
Here is the bag my MIL made me for the trip. She added that "Mariah" element with the butterfly. So fly.
Well let me go to class, lol lol LadyNay has a great Meme that I will be doing tomorrow. Would tonite but it's almost 9pm and I want to be done with class before 10. So peace out!
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
mindspace 3/14/07
With the Quickness
Hey! I am getting such a late start, but I'll get it together.
Well the money train has come to a screeching halt. I am going to mourn the breakup of my relationship with the post man and the affair with the UPS man, but it is necessary. I am glad that I know when to stop. Now of course I was hanging over the cliff - but I have stopped. I have one more package coming and I did two returns and I'm posting two ebay sales this weekend - so the game goes on, lol lol
Mini-me ran her spill all up in the eye doctor yesterday and came away with a weeks trial of contacts! This morning she tore them up, lol So I'm running over and getting her a new pair at lunch. She just needs to slow down and it will be alright. We will do a couple of 'let US put our contacts in together' sessions and I am going to pick up a magnified mirror. She's kinda short to lean so far over the sink to look closely into her bathroom mirror. To sit down on the commode and put them in with a mirror would work better. Luckily my insurance covers all of her's. I like vision insurance. Times have come a long way. Now of course my blind ass costs like $125 for the year but that still isn't too bad. Glad we got that out of the way for the year 2007.
Now the Dentist was just damn painful. Mini-me marched up in there after not going for like 3 years (yea I KNOW) and has perfect teeth and didn't even have an abundance of plaque took 15 minutes and was free. My ass on the other hand, crawled up in the chair - had to come back when they had time, make an appt. for part 2 AND shell out $580!!!! However, part one is feeling GREAT! I can tell what bad shape part two is in comparing in my mouth. I go tomorrow and I'm gonna have fun coming back to work drooling and shit, lol
Based on above, you can see why the money train came to a halt. We got a cruise to go on. This morning was spent doing emergency work on the budget - first things first baby, lol
So how do you tell someone respectfully that they are depressing and you really don't want to hear it anymore? I am at that point . See let's just say there are problems, but then again there are always problems in my family. I have been hearing about these for a lonnng while and I have come to the conclusion that (1) hearing this day after day is depressing (2) my opinion is not welcomed because it ain't what they want to hear and (3) there is nothing I can do about the situation - therefore, must I hear about it every conversation and since we speak daily - that means every conversation. Do we not have one more thing to talk about. I don't talk that much about what's going on with me/us because it's soo opposite to what's going on there that it gets met with this long sigh........I am going to cut down on the talking on the phone right now for self perservation. I have to 'save myself' from the constant drama. I've always been this way - very protective of my own 'familial sanity'. I don't thrive off of that nonsense. The parties involved in this do make me care - because I have had a tendacy to not care, but in this case I do - but good Lawd, why must we thrive off of it?! DAYUM! I look at my family like jump ropes. I stand around and see when I should jump in and usually always get smacked across the face with the rope - therefore, I just prefer to go play somewhere else.
I also am OVA the whole - giving thing I had going on. I give because I feel like it and not because it's asked or whatever. A BAD habit in my family. Well now in the midst of the woes is always a "so and so needs - see can you pick that up" it has happen a couple of times and I've just kinda gone out and blessed the folks, well OVA, not the United Nations up in this piece. Sometimes I wish I had the courage to just really branch on off and let it all go - but that's actually not my nature, I do need family in some shape or form, I just REALLY wish we had regular dysfunction issues - and not the ones that we currently have.
(Now it's AFTER Lunch)
Ok so I got her three new contacts, so now we have two sets. Luckily she wears the same prescription in each eye. I've sat and fretting more and more about this whole 'my family' I might need to just be open and get some things off my chest and finally before I just end this - I have gas so I'm farting in my cubicle.
Don't act like you haven't before! So stay the hell out! LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Mindspace 3/13/07
BabyBoy
Morning! There is something peaceful about sitting in your bed in your authentic Al B. Sure Concert Tshirt that you got on his 'world tour' in 1989, watching Good Morning America, knowing that it's going to be 80 degrees today. Mini me and I are home today because we have a series of Dr. appts to go to. It's that time of year. I can't believe that it's almost a year since she broke her knee. Time certainly waits for no one.
Ahhh 80 degrees. I am bracing myself for the utter insanity that will besiege my eyes when I step out into the world this morning. It's funny, I can't even get out any summer clothes because I pack them away - but best believe folks are going to start peeling it off. SCREECH! GO GET YOUR DAMN FEET DONE!!! If you haven't been getting them done on the regular, one swipe with the callous bar is NOT going to be enough. I painted my toes lilac for the wedding and thus they stay. I will have two passes with a pedicure before I unviel them on the cruise. Folks follow suit. I know that the human body loves, craves and needs the sun but even if you jet black YOU PALE! Don't break out all your skin at one time on us. As well as if you didn't work out this winter, even if you are somewhat fit you are somewhat flabby, so um yes your arms are jiggling in that tank top dammit! I just wish folks would give it to us in stages. BOOTY SHORTS IN MARCH ARE JUST FOUL!! At the car show that whole hooker heels, booty shorts and a top was just scandalous! Personally I prefer to just sun my face and have that cute 'dusted' look. At least I'm going away and when I come back I'll be in great shape to start wearing short sleeves, lol.
So as mentioned yesterday, I put out an APB on Tyrese Gibson. He is coming to Atlanta and I really want to see him. Well my loving husband went on the search for me. He even contacted his publicist who happened to NOT know they damn self. (tsk tsk tsk). So we had to just wait until SiMan from 102.5 came on the air. CAUN called and called and got him on the phone and got the information. We rushed home from the grocery store - dumped the food that had to go in the fridge, snatched up mini-me and sped over to the club site to discover it's not even finished yet! The grand opening is Sunday with Tyrese! We found the owner who gave us the information.
ATL peeps, Taboo 2 is a real club/bistro that is reopening on Sunday, It's real similar to the first one and South Beach Bistro in the same spot as Taboo was. Because I want an opportunity to see him I ain't even telling ya'll concert details but by now you've heard the ad on the radio.
DAYUM! I had to track this brother down, but it will be so worth it. OH YEA OH YEA. You know we went to some great concerts last year: New Edition, Mary J. Prince, R Kelly....and we are gearing up for another fantastic concert year for 2007.
Whew - well let me finish watching Patti Labelle, she don took a sista to her wig manufacturer. DAYUM they are hooking it UP! I should invest in a lace front but first I need to work on my makeup, lol lol Cause ya'll know me - I'll just be walking around lace just a flying in the wind, lol lol
And by the way - CAUN wants me to showcase these legs in some shorts and heels, lol However, rather than trying to rock something out of my body league, an ultra cute top some Bermuda Shorts and some 3 inchers and I can duplicate the look taking into account I'm not a 10! I actually will look cute, lol lol I'll let ya'll know when I'm rocking THAT!